Female friendship – a myth or a reality?
Each of us, at least once, thought of, whether there is a female friendship, but here to give the unequivocal answer to this question to very few people it was possible. If to reject occurring stereotypes that we know about this concept?
Many of us have own experience of female friendship, others – can judge only on personal observations, the third, in general, are guided exclusively by that information which is received from occurring stereotypes. Actually, it is possible to tell, that female friendship, as well as all on light (including the female logic), has the right to existence, and its single instances only confirm a rule.
Quite often girls are on friendly terms since the kindergarten or an elementary school. Such relations begin with joint game in dolls, the doctrine of lessons, discussion of boys, visiting of discos. At women it is that, that the grown up girls quite often, secretly from mums, use the same cosmetics, go together on appointments and share the further plans for a life. There passes time, and each girl chooses the way, having entered the institute, having got weight of new acquaintances, and then and having married. Here already it is necessary to become thoughtful, whether there was that friendship which at you was in days of a carefree youth, or your interests have so dispersed, that to you and to talk now there is nothing.
If to reflect, it becomes not clear, why one of girls, having married, forgets about the girlfriend. Why some consider, that it is possible to replace friendship with love to the spouse completely. Actually, family relations cannot be closed only for two the people, after all each of them before has met the significant other, communicated with weight of other people and had at least some friends or girlfriends. As soon as between spouses there is any intensity, about it it is sometimes better to talk to the girlfriend, than to cook only in the family, differently such closed relations can end very quickly.
Do not forget, that with the girlfriend it is possible to have a rest simply from house affairs, to descend on sale (that you will not make with even with own spouse), to have a drink coffee, and, eventually, easier to talk about a life. It is not necessary, even having married, to stop relations with people as whom you yet considered so a long time as relatives, after all it not simply related souls, and people which not bad know you and if necessary can calm or give the necessary advice.
One of the brightest negative displays of female friendship is envy. Often at discussion of the woman by its girlfriends it is possible to hear, that they consider, that deserve bolshego, than it, that at it the husband is better, that to it it is worked much easier, what not such and beautiful and so forth.
Analyzing the similar statements, hundred times you will think over, whether you that such person was near to you want. The answer arises by itself. It is clear, that from such lzhedruzej it is better to keep at decent distance.
The monetary question can become one more problem in female friendship. As soon as one girlfriend starts to earn more, or it has a well-founded spouse, there and then there can be a feeling of envy which is capable to destroy even the most sincere long-term relations.
If to list the reasons, capable to become a push to destruction of female friendship them the weight will be typed, but we will list only some of them:
• the financial position of one of women does not allow to spend it the free time together.
• expensive gifts received from the girlfriend, especially, if you on the financial position do not presume to answer itself with its same.
To keep friendship with the girlfriend which for any reasons has appeared in due course more richly you, first of all, it is not necessary kompleksovat. It is necessary to remember, that you in many respects depends on you. In no event thus do not try to show, that you too presume to drink to yourselves a wine glass at expensive restaurant or to make a fashionable hairstyle in elite salon, and thus to spend the money postponed for more essential family needs.
You cannot present to the girlfriend the same expensive gift how it has presented to you on birthday? So in it also there is no necessity, after all the main thing in prezente not its price, and that in it the part of your soul is enclosed.
Analyzing all aforesaid, it is simple to understand, that the reasons for the termination of female friendship much more, than for its preservation. At the same time there is a weight of women which could overcome in itself complexes and with pleasure sincerely keep in touch with those girlfriends, relations with which were fastened in the childhood.
Vital supervision show, that the present female friendship - the phenomenon the extremely rare, but, being faster an exception to the rules, nevertheless confirms it.
Comments (5).
We with the school girlfriend very long corresponded, but then this correspondence has come to naught. And it is a pity, it would be interesting to know as it lives now.
Reality, proverenno on themselves
of 18 years we are on friendly terms and not to time have not sworn, can not trust, but indeed. Now it it is far.
Though know, there were to me "false" girlfriends, at times happens is insulting, that open to the person, it receive gossips about
To trust it is necessary only for itself.
And I, probably, not so good girlfriend
I can not call and not write till some months. I can forget to congratulate on holidays. But thus to test to girlfriends the most most gentle feelings.
And I do not trust in female friendship. The girlfriend has betrayed me with which we 16 years were on friendly terms
I too was disappointed in female friendship "a little"!!! After the termination of university at me with the best girlfriend interests have exchanged, and the distance has played the big role, it has left and lives now in the western Ukraine.
The present girlfriend, the instructor, for me was always there will be my elder sister Alina!! Though at us with it of 7 years a difference, but we can talk about all and I on all of 10000 % am assured of its fidelity!!
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